Moving back after a long stint abroad? 4 Singaporeans – Neha Thakkar, Eric Lim, Kelly Loy, Abigail Han – share their tips for reducing reverse culture shock.
Updated 18 July 2022 / By SGN
Living and working in a new country can be a great way to your worldview by experiencing new cultures and getting acquainted with new people. While it is likely you’ll need some time to get used to the unspoken rules and norms, over time you’ll learn to adapt and pick up the subtle nuances which come to exemplify a country and its people.
We asked Neha Thakkar, Eric Lim, Kelly Loy and Abigail Han, four Singaporeans who have spent years abroad to share tips on successfully navigating their transition back home.
1) Bone up on your local knowledge
Prior to planning your move back home, reach out to friends and family in Singapore to get a feel of what has been happening at home, advises Eric.
“Singapore is constantly changing and at a very fast pace, so what we know as Singapore so many years ago is likely not the same Singapore we will be coming back to,” notes Eric, who has previously been based in the US as well as countries across the Asia Pacific region. “Our local knowledge needs updating so we can make the most optimal decisions for our personal and professional needs.”
2) Start planning as soon as possible
Moving back to Singapore, following an extended stay can be a complicated process which includes many administrative components such as closing bank accounts or terminating one’s employment pass. As such, Eric shares the importance of an early start to give yourself time to explore a broad range of options and identify areas where you may need advice or help.
You should also make full use of the resources you have at your disposal, from books, websites to online groups. Neha enthuses, “Connecting with [online groups like] the Singapore Global Network can serve as a lighthouse for overseas Singaporeans, as well as for a broader community that is keen to connect to Singapore in some shape or form.” Prior to her return to Singapore, Neha was an overseas Singaporean for more than a decade, having worked and lived in various parts of the world including Switzerland, France, United States, Qatar, and Vanuatu.
3) Decide on what your big project will be after returning
In more ways than one, choosing to move back home can mark the closing of one chapter and the beginning of another in your life. As such, it will be wise to think about what you’d like to pursue after moving back home. Eric points out that this can range from finding the right job to figuring out where to live and which schools your kids will go to.
Kelly, who studied and worked in Australia for more than two-and-a-half years, says you can start by researching for places you’d like to work at before moving home. “It would be good to speak to some of your friends that are working in Singapore to ask about their work-life or company culture.”
One of the biggest challenges that Kelly faced was bridging the differences between the working cultures in Australia and Singapore. “[I learnt that] it just takes time to ease back to the Singapore way of life. But it helps me feel better to know that I am reunited with my family and friends.”
Eric echoes the same view, adding that you should observe and integrate into the working culture instead of focusing on the differences in an overseas culture that you may have gotten used to.
4) Be open to embracing new ways of re-connecting
Another way to reconnect with the local culture is to meet with close friends and family members, points out Abigail. Seeing a familiar face or indulging in an activity that you used to do, is a sure-fire way to remove any feelings of unease.
In addition to reconnecting with loved ones or close friends, Neha shares alternative ways to reconnect with local culture. Try signing up for social and professional events which can help you expand your network. “Personally, I [also] found great value in volunteering at the grassroots, which helped me reconnect to my community in a profound and meaningful way.”